I can’t remember the exact day, but I certainly remember the event. I must have had two small children (my boys are only 18 months apart), and I was struggling with something about my role as a stay-at-home mum. I was looking for answers. And where do you go these days for answers to any question that can be imagined? That’s right, I went straight to the top: Google.
I typed in ‘how to be a mum’ and came up with a few random articles about challenges with the transition to motherhood and how to enjoy being a mum. (BTW, I did the search today and found How to Be a Good Mother: 9 Steps (with Pictures) – that sounds promising!) The truth is, Google didn’t have an answer for me. I was looking for something that I actually needed to discover and define for myself: what does it mean for ME to be a mum, how does it look for ME to succeed in this role?
As we get reminded often, the birth of a child is also the birth of a mother. And as much as we try and prepare ourselves beforehand, there is really nothing we can do except live out the experience in the best way we know how, seeking guidance along the way for each season we face. No one’s journey is the same as another’s. (You know this from comparing baby milestones with other mums!).
I want to encourage you today to write your own story of motherhood, because you are the only one who can do this for you and your children. Of course, use tools and methods that have worked for others and keep learning, but be clear about who you want to be and what that looks like for you and your family!
How to be a mum? I’m still learning every day. I’m learning from books, from the internet, from friends and most of all from my children. It’s a wonderful never-ending story.
Tanya x
PS. Feel free to have a look at my Pinterest board called ‘How to Be a Mum’ for some interesting tips and tools.
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